How do you make it as a single mother/parent?
This is very serious?
I am in a very unhappy relationship, I don’t know how to end it. I am scared to death to be a single mother, how do I do it, How do I make it through??
I was widowed 4 years ago and met this guy, whom I was engaged to, once we had a child everything changed, he does nothing.. I am wondering if there are support groups, websites, books anything to get on with my lfie.
Thanks
I am in a very unhappy relationship, I don’t know how to end it. I am scared to death to be a single mother, how do I do it, How do I make it through??
I was widowed 4 years ago and met this guy, whom I was engaged to, once we had a child everything changed, he does nothing.. I am wondering if there are support groups, websites, books anything to get on with my lfie.
Thanks
Single moms can make it!!! Believe me I am one of 6 kids and my mom raised us by herself after she left my abusive father. (She’s still raising 3 by herself) Its hard work but it can be done. There are programs out there to help you if you are lower income. Don’t stay in an unhappy relationship it can and will affect your child. I wished for years that my parents would divorce. I was so tired of seeing my mom unhappy. It was the happiest day of my life when my mom took us kids and left. Stay strong you can do it!!!
Comment by texgurl123 — February 2, 2010 @ 6:41 pm
YES THIS IS SERIOUS.but you can do this.1st family and friends are a wonderful support system if you have it.you and your child will be fine.local churches also help.becoming self-sufficient is really empowering and reflects well on you.and remember your child knows if you are unhappy.and you both deserve to be.
Comment by fifi — February 3, 2010 @ 1:20 am
i was a single parent for 2 years you have to use that child as your backbone your child give you the strength to be a better woman if your not happy with the man your with you gotta go for the sake of you and that child it only will get worse it might be a struggle at first but you will make it through and be happy in the long run you gotta do what you gotta do you can make it be strong not weak you staying only shows that your weak
Comment by NETTA D — February 3, 2010 @ 6:41 am
Yes there is support groups. And you was on your own 4 years ago girl you can do it again. I was a single mother of 2 beautiful girls and I met this so called thought was a gentleman hell he took everything we had I mean everything my girls and I slept on the floor for 6 months. But my girls and I are pretty close. You can do it girl. Nothing wrong for asking help if you need it. Just to get on your feet.
Comment by Robin C — February 4, 2010 @ 7:36 am
Yes, there are. Contact family services and the department of health and welfare. Depending on your income, you could qualify for medicaid to provide insurance for your child and yourself. You could also qualify for support groups and help with a counselor. There are many counseling clinics that operate on a sliding scale based on income and need. There’s also WIC (Women, Infants and Children) if your child is below a certain age (5 I think, but not positive) that will provide you with assistance for groceries. There are job training programs to help you get job skills that will help you find a job that will support you both. You may also qualify for free or reduced fee child care, as well as rental assistance to help pay for an apartment.
The hard part is just taking that first step and changing your life for the better. It can be scary and confusing, but there are programs in place to help women do just that.
Good luck.
Comment by Katasha — February 5, 2010 @ 9:24 am
Leave are put him pout if it is your house-you said that you were widowed 4 yrs ago,what are you afraid of not having a man in your life-you have a child stop thinking about yourself and think about your child-you can get another man,not another child to replace this one-he does nothing because you let him do nothing-yes there are support groups out there for you-I made it through with 6 children,and I was a single parent-you can do anything you set your mind to if you want to do it-you have to have the want two’s-if i could do it with 6,you can do it with one.try it you might like it-I did
Comment by brown sugar — February 6, 2010 @ 2:49 am
I am a single mother of 2 beautiful children. You need to hang in there for them. Realize how wonderful your child is and he/she(and you) don’t need the unhappiness of a bad relationship. I know it sounds cliche, but really if you focus on your child, you won’t have time to worry about being single.
Comment by copleybailey — February 9, 2010 @ 2:51 am
I was once in an unhappy marriage and I stayed for a long time because I was afraid to be alone and start over again. I fooled myself into believing it was better for the child if we stayed together. When it was over I realized how much better I was without him. I could focus on raising my child much more effeciently. It was like a weight had been lifted. There are community centres that offer councelling and charge based on your salary. You could check that out. Take care
Comment by CHRISTINE S — February 10, 2010 @ 5:16 pm
This book looks interesting:
As far as leaving him, I think you should get support from family and friends first and then make the move. The hardest part is always the first step!
Comment by Alskarinna — February 13, 2010 @ 12:10 pm
I really wish I knew. I am a single mother of four kids. My husband walked out of our lives 4 years ago. He left me with everything and every bill that went with it. He owes me over 70,000 in child support and has disappeared. I am sinking slowly. Of course staying in a unhealthy relationship is not good for you or your kids. I know every organization that claims to help someone in my situation but I have not found one that actually has helped at all. I have been struggling in my career to make enough. Trying to find a second or better job for years. I can’t get welfare/medical because I have a house I can’t sell, a car I can’t sell. Both are ready to be taken. I struggle with each day to steal one precious second with each of my children. They are growing up alone. I am only telling you this because I am so very scared and if telling you this somehow helps you not be in this same place, then it is worth it! I wish you the very best of luck. I know it can be done so many fabulously strong women have done it! I hope you suceed to become one of those women! God Bless You.
Comment by Red Head Connect — February 14, 2010 @ 12:46 am
One day at a time! I never imagined being a single parent, but after 20 years of marriage, I found myself divorced and kicked out of my home, along with our children. I moved back to my hometown, where I had much-needed support from my family and friends. Find yourself a decent job and good housing (yes, it’s out there and available – you just have to want it bad enough!). Just knowing that you are making a living for your children should make things much easier for you. And, you should get child support from your child’s father. That will help a lot! There are a l ot of support groups out there, even in a very small town where I come from. Luckily, I never had to use them, because I had such wonderful support from my family. They were and still are always available to me and my children. Believe in yourself! That’s the first step. Know that you can do anything that you put your mind to. Get out there and make a good life for you and your child! It’s easier than you think and you will eventually find happiness. Best of luck to you and your child!
Comment by country girl 006 — February 17, 2010 @ 9:02 am