My dad has another family in a foreign country. What do you think can be done?
1. the family over there (my four half brothers) have always threatened to hurt my mom once they got here. My pop’s is now bringing them over after many years
2. My parents won’t divorce primarily because my mom doesn’t want to. She’s a career woman and has been very very successful. She doesn’t want to give half of their belongings because my dad would take a lot of what she’s earned away and give it to his sons. She’s all about money.
3. I want to move on with my own career, but if I were to leave, my dad would hand them the keys to operating one of our profitable family businesses. I want to improve the business, let it stand on its own.
Any attempt to communicate with my “half brothers” have been futile. They hate this side of the family because we are in the states and all my life, they’ve never written. It seems like they just want to take my dad and his money. They know of his relative success. I have been to this country and it is full of money mongrols. I can’t convince my dad of this and there are those in the family who support him on supporting his children. I partially agree, but don’t know how to go about this. My dad, cannot return because he got out in the first place due to political problems.
Suggestions? I’m tired of the family drama and just want to move on with my own life.
Oh, the only person they talk to is my dad. They tell them they are all miserable and just ask for money. He sends it, and the currency exchange goes far, so I know that they are fine. They don’t work, they just go out to cock fights. I work nearly everyday in the family biz and get nowhere near the respect he gives them.
You’ve said twice you want to move on with your life and that is what you should do. If part of what you want to do with your life is improve one of the profitable family businesses, perhaps you could negotiate with your Dad that he put you in charge of that business or name you as the successor if you’re not ready to take over yet.
This should all be put in writing and made into a legal document so no one else can interfere at a future time. Once that’s accomplished, leave the rest of the family drama to the family and move on with your life. If your Dad’s not open to the idea of naming you to run that business, go out and start your own. The important thing is, you have to live your life for yourself. You Dad made his own decisions about his family and now has to live with the consequences.
Comment by innerradiancecoaching — March 7, 2010 @ 7:52 am
To get the background right – what is the other country?
I don’t understand how your father could be allowed two families. Is this legal.
I’d report it to the authorities.
Comment by Caesar's wife — March 8, 2010 @ 7:15 pm