I have a three year old at home with me during the day, and I feel like I’m always shooing him away to get my work done, but it’s counter-productive because it makes him even clingier. The hubby and school age kids look at me like I’ve been eating bon bons all day since the house isn’t any cleaner than when they left in the morning. Daycare isn’t an option until I’m actually making money with this new endeavor, and kind of defeats the purpose of working at home anyway. I know there is a way to get it all balanced, I just need some guidance and practical advice from someone who’s got it going on. Thanks!
Thanks everyone for some helpful tips. I’m kind of doing a conglomeration of all of it, so evidently I’m on the right track. I’m also going to negotiate a day with Grandma so that I have a kid-free day to really concentrate on work.
Nanny – I would love to spend the entire day playing with and teaching my children. I would also like to feed them and keep a roof over their heads. To try and lay a guilt trip on me or any of the countless other moms who are struggling to balance work and family, happiness and survival, is judgemental and insulting. We all have to do the best we can with what we’ve got. Your ID of Nanny suggests that you are paid to watch someone else’s kids. Don’t let your negative impressions of your employer make you think you’re better than the rest of us moms. Most of us are working our jobs AND cleaning our houses AND caring for our children AND caring for our aging parents, etc. I’m sorry, but we just don’t have any spare time to join you on your pedestal.
I am going through a nasty divorce after 6 yrs of marriage cheating happened on both sides age difference did not help he is 38 yrs old and i am only turning 26. I have two kids a 3 yr old son from an affair that i had and 5 yr old daughter thats getting a paternity test because of same affair .We lived very well my current home is worth 500,000 our furnishings are worth worth about 25-30 grand i can not afford to maintain this lifestyle.My hubby wants to have the house sold so he can move back in ex.wife who he was having an affair with and his 2 kids. I have not worked in 3 yrs so cant afford to keep home and i only have 8,000 in savings at present i have never had to manage money.My daughter is used to having whatever she wants and so is my son i am used to giving them nothing but top of the line?Neither child understands what going on at the moment?
In June I will have pack up my 2 kids into my volvo with our 3 dogs and cat to move to a cheaper area.Hubby will not make it easy for me to get any money.
I am a single mom ( separated from jerk i mean ex-hubby) and am having trouble juggling everything. Any tips?
marrying a man with no career ambitions far less money far less income potential, which stays at home and cathers to the home and children ?
amiram how about putting money on the side to get through pregnancy and maybe the early months you genius ? Beside you want it all again so both work and after the children looks who ?
“Spoon” it isnt about ambition. Lets say you are a college educated girl making 3000/month on your way up your hubby is a “do you want fries with that ? ” making 1000 something a month for the rest of his life. I dont think there will be much of a discussion. There are plenty of low earning men for women to choose from so love shouldnt be the issue eithier.
KA my son gets what he wants to play with the way I get what I want to play with. Sadly women will just have to take the risk and find out afterwards if they married a trip to divorce or if they married a dedicated husband which properly takes care of the house and children, just like men do. You do not want to marry “less” because you do not want to risk loosing your children and money ? Then its only fair you eitheir kiss your career or having children goodbye.
No Rio it does not work like that. If both do both both have to compromise their career and the few spots higher up the carreer ladder will eithier be taken by people who are childless or by people who have a spouse who holds his/her back free. Who comrpomises cant give as much as somone who doesnt.
I have a three year old at home with me during the day, and I feel like I’m always shooing him away to get my work done, but it’s counter-productive because it makes him even clingier. The hubby and school age kids look at me like I’ve been eating bon bons all day since the house isn’t any cleaner than when they left in the morning. Daycare isn’t an option until I’m actually making money with this new endeavor, and kind of defeats the purpose of working at home anyway. I know there is a way to get it all balanced, I just need some guidance and practical advice from someone who’s got it going on. Thanks!
Thanks everyone for some helpful tips. I’m kind of doing a conglomeration of all of it, so evidently I’m on the right track. I’m also going to negotiate a day with Grandma so that I have a kid-free day to really concentrate on work.
Nanny – I would love to spend the entire day playing with and teaching my children. I would also like to feed them and keep a roof over their heads. To try and lay a guilt trip on me or any of the countless other moms who are struggling to balance work and family, happiness and survival, is judgemental and insulting. We all have to do the best we can with what we’ve got. Your ID of Nanny suggests that you are paid to watch someone else’s kids. Don’t let your negative impressions of your employer make you think you’re better than the rest of us moms. Most of us are working our jobs AND cleaning our houses AND caring for our children AND caring for our aging parents, etc. I’m sorry, but we just don’t have any spare time to join you on your pedestal.
well id love to do medical, maybe a nurse or redialogy. however im thinking about reserve or national guard. what do you guys think my husband is army active, so hes trying real hard to convince me that its a good idea to join reserve or national guard, they will pay for my school and suchhhhhhhh!! i just dont like being away from my hubby weve only been married for 8 month. but he said its worth it i will be coming back a career women, PS we have no kids yet, so id like some more opinion outside of family and friends,
thank you and god help.
Imagine you are a woman. You worked hard tried to be a good wife payed all of the bills supported your stay at home husband and for whatever reason he cheated on you. You feel hurt and want a divorce. But if you divorce you loose children (shared custody you seem them once a week) half of what has been safed and invested with your money and you will be ordered to pay alimony and child support to your cheating ex. Do you think that having that scenario in the back of their heads is the reason almost all women try to compromise their career with rearing children and their partners career which they insist he must have ? If they dont go all the way they will people who dont compromise will always earn more and always progress the career ladder faster and people who dont compromise are mostly singel men and women and married men who have a sahm wife and risk divorce and its consequences in return. Do you think more women would accept and even persuade their partner to stay home if they
so they can focus completly on their careers and compete for the very top with people who do not have to compromise if they would not have to risk to loose half of what has been safed and earned by her and WILL be earned by her to a cheating/divorcing husband with no income ?
The ladies obviously dont imagine they are a woman ^.^
MOthra you described a divorced housewife/part time worker in your scenario. Do you think if there wouldnt be the divorce laws that would put a wife at the recieving end of a divorce if hubby stays home fulltime so she can focus on her career that more women would take that decision ?
mc girlish I dont like them Iam trying to find out if the vast majority of women equally dislikes them and therefore wont settle for a stay at home husband so they can focus on their career risking to be on the recieving end of a divorce in return. Do you have an answer on that or not ?
Formerly known as if the judge decides your husband is the primary caretaker of the children your prenup flies straight out of the window. Just so you know.
Wildheart dont you bust your pretty little head over my silly silly question ^.^. *hugs*
Formerly known as the way your prenup sounds it does not comply with divorce laws at all anyway and you are at a great risk for it to be tossed right away anayway. That happens on a regular basis I think more than half of prenups basically get void by the judge.
Sweety to you it makes no difference if you recieve child support from your cheating ex or have to pay it to him ?
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